How to Get What You Want in Life – Day 5

There are 3 reactions to adversity:

(1) Those who become paralyzed by it

(2) those who struggle through it

(3) those who adapt to it and become stronger as a result.

The difference between the 3 has everything to do with one’s vision or lack of it. Person #1 has no vision. When he hits the wall, this is all he sees. Compare that to person #3 who when he smacks into the wall, he’s barely acknowledging it because his vision is so crystalized, he’s already looking for ways under, over, around or right through the obstacle in order to achieve his vision.

Your endurance is tied directly to the clarity of your vision!

With this in mind, I encourage you to create a vision binder which includes your  BE/DO/HAVE. So many people jump to the HAVE part of the equation without realizing that their “have’s” are a direct result of  the qualities, habits, and intellect they possess which allowed them to get there. The equation for success is a BE/DO/HAVE concept. What that means is that you must first decide what type of person you want to BE. What attributes, as a person, you see as being necessary to your success. This includes both personal and professional characteristics; such as a being a Christ centered, supportive husband & father. A man of honesty, integrity, hard work, discipline, focus, action, . . .etc. If you can imagine being at your own funeral, what would you like people to be saying about you?

Once you decide what characteristics you see as being crucial to your overall success, you need to decide what you see as necessary for you to DO to achieve this success. Habits, activities, goals and so on.

And only then do you have the ability to acquire what you want to HAVE. Monetary and material goals are only valuable as they pertain to the perceived impact they will have on your sense of fulfillment. The reality is that the journey is what gives people the happiness they want. The material stuff is just the icing on the cake. When you learn to enjoy the ride, the destination will be that much better. I enjoy the saying, “I don’t achieve to be happy. I happily achieve.”

BE/ DO/ HAVE: Remember, when you achieve your financial goal this year, what will be so impactful will not be the money you earn but rather the habits you form along the way, which will form your character, which will shape your destiny, which will enable you to have the lifestyle you desire for the rest of your life. This is what will truly be most meaningful.

Your vision binder can include anything that gets you fired up to work towards. It should include words and pictures. The mistake people make is when they start the process by looking through magazines to find interesting pictures that catch their eye and conclude, “This should be in my vision binder.” IE they let the magazine define their vision. The more effective way to approach your vision binder is to begin with the process of identifying the kind of life you desire to lead and then finding pictures to reinforce the vision. Remember, your vision is that picture of what things will look like when you’ve achieved your goals. What makes it powerful is when you create a picture of the life you desire to lead, you’ll begin to live into that picture as if it was already true. The power of a vision binder is such that, by reviewing it often, it will help you perform activities that you might not like to do, in order to achieve your long-term vision. Planning your days, for example, can be time consuming and tedious. However, if becoming an organized person is part of your vision, you’ll be that much more excited to plan your days because you’ll connect how this activity will lead you towards that vision. As we’ve talked about, most people only think in the short-term and only perform those activities they enjoy.

Peak performers, however, think in the long-term, and are willing to do activities they don’t always enjoy, in order to achieve their long-term vision. Having a vision binder will remind you of this. Once you lock onto an exciting vision for your life, you will do whatever it takes to achieve it, mowing down any obstacles that get in your way!

Steve Reiner

Professional Sales Coach

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